After checking out Elite Singles, I decided to give it a try. This name will be used to credit you for things you share on Reddit. Sorry, something went wrong.
Cougar is another term that needs to go. We have in no way lowered our standards. It actually may get you sent directly to a block list because we want a quality partner and not someone firing off pictures of their equipment to total strangers. If someone asks for them, fine. I can honestly say that I went on a date where the guy practically interviewed me to be the stepmom for his kid. It was a first date. If they say no, respect that.
There is little more embarrassing than having to explain to a potential date that our budget may extend to supporting ourselves and our kids but might not cover the cost of a sitter for a night out. Be considerate, and understand that sometimes dates might get derailed by family emergencies. Louder for the people in the back! This means co-parenting with someone you broke up with or divorced.
This one is big for me. My kids will always come first in the decisions that I make as far as their health and well-being and overall happiness. Some guys may even admire you more for being a parent.
Childless guys aren't necessarily immature narcissists. There are childless men who are capable of understanding all the demands you're juggling as a single mom. They respect you for your juggling act, and they'll be flexible and understanding.
Of course, the reverse is also true: Being a dad doesn't necessarily mean you've got your shit together or that you're over yourself. Many guys know how to service a woman properly. Without going into too much detail There are men out there who consider it a duty and a pleasure to rock your world sexually.
No need to waste your time with someone who doesn't. It helps if you send out the right signals that that's something you want, though. Figure out what you think makes you sexy and work it, baby. Your kid just might be okay with you dating. A lot depends on how you handle the situation, and how old your kids are. But I think in general, if all else is good with your relationship with your kids, and you've done the hard work of processing the divorce with them, they will accept the idea of you socializing with men who are not Daddy.
If you're happy, they're happy usually. Obviously boundaries and communication are important, but don't assume your kids will be threatened by your going out on dates. Calling all single moms, have you found these to be true? More from The Stir: News Politics Entertainment Communities. Opinion HuffPost Personal Videos. Not all men my age want to date someone 10 years younger.